Furry Family Members

The animals we love

I am from Houston and have many friends and family there so I’ve been glued to news reports about Hurricane Harvey.  Many pictures show people wading through waist-deep water clutching their pets. I saw one woman floating with her poodle on an air mattress and a man carrying his large dog across his shoulders.  I was so relieved to see the valiant rescuers making room in their boats and trucks for the animals.  Those of us who love our pets consider them family members.  I can’t imagine how heartbreaking it would be to have to leave them behind. (more…)

On Being Free

I had a bucket list long before I ever heard that term.  As a child I dreamed of the places I would go and the adventures I would have.  Many of my dreams have been realized and are are now treasured memories.  But not all of them.  And that’s why after my last birthday when I officially became a “senior” my husband and I decided it was time to get on with the list.  (more…)

From my Point of View

It's Lonely up Here!

I  have been a professional counselor for more than 20 years.  Lately I’ve seen more and more clients presenting with issues related to aging.  Some are reinventing themselves as they transition into retirement or are just beginning encore careers.  Some are struggling with grief after the death of a spouse.  Others are reeling from the shock of an unexpected divorce they didn’t see coming.  I see those who are overburdened with the responsibilities of caring for dependent loved ones and the awful guilt they experience when they privately admit their feelings about the situation.  I know there are many of us boomers in the same boat.  (more…)

T.M.I.

How to Survive Information Overload

There was a time when people who wanted to talk to us picked up a telephone—a device that was firmly attached to a wall. If we weren’t in earshot of our own firmly attached devices or if we were already talking to someone else the caller got a busy signal, which put the burden on them to keep trying to reach us. Contrast that with all the ways people have to reach us now. We can chat by video, e-mail, texts and tweets. Our phones have become an extra appendage. And then there’s Facebook which can keep us glued to stories and videos about interesting things happening in other people’s lives, many of whom we don’t even know. News is no longer limited to twice daily broadcasts and it’s no longer local—it’s 24/7 from around the world. Everywhere, all the time, someone is screaming (often literally) for our attention. A professor at McGill University calls this information overload a “cognitive flood” and says, “By one calculation we’ve created more information in the last 10 years than in all of human history before that.” Yikes!

That’s just TMI.

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How Old Are You?

Redefining Old Age

Remember when you were a kid and someone asked you that question?  “I’m 12 and a half,” we’d reply, eager to claim every one of our days. We couldn’t wait to be grown up when we believed we could do anything we wanted. Now if we’re asked our age (and we choose to respond) our answers are quite different. (more…)

Learning to Embrace Change

Explore. Dream. Discover.

It’s November and the weather in our little village is changing. The air is crisp and the multicolored leaves are falling fast. The forest is preparing for winter and will soon be fast asleep dreaming of spring. Having four seasons is one of the things I enjoy about living here.  I love change—and I’m not just talking about weather. (more…)