8 Things to Remember When Someone You Love is Grieving

In our youth obsessed culture we don’t talk much about death even though it is something 100% of us face.  Many of us die in hospitals or nursing homes, removed from view.  Even the word “death” is sanitized.  Instead of saying someone has died, we say that person has “passed away” or “departed.”  As a result of our avoidance and discomfort with the subject, we are often profoundly unprepared to aid people we love when they are grieving the death of a loved one. Here are some things to keep in mind. (more…)

Becoming an Orphaned Adult

Coping with the death of our parents

I was 32 when my father died after a long struggle with cancer.  Because he was ill for so long we had time to spend together saying what needed to be said. In essence, we grieved his death together. After he was gone I missed him terribly, but my attention turned to meeting the needs of my mother and helping her adjust to life as a widow. When she died suddenly 11 years later I was totally unprepared for the devastating sense of loss I experienced.  It wasn’t that I loved my mother more than I loved my dad.  It was because it suddenly hit me that I was no longer anyone’s daughter. I was an orphan. (more…)